Whatever you are not changing, you are choosing.

Should I stay or should I go – was probably one of the most famous songs from the English rock band The Clash. Easy to sing along and embed it with a powerful message. Decision making and who decides for you.

Last week, just by chance (or not), this very same music appeared a few times in my mind while walking the Midlife Transition Program. The reason for that to happen is pretty simple. The route itself poses as many beautiful landscapes as challenges, meaning that you are continually being invited to make decisions or accept what is thrown at you.

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Midlife Transition Program in Costa Vicentina

Let’s start with the elements. On our first days, I lost count how many times we dressed and undressed our raincoats. Curiously one of our participants coming from Norway, repeated several times, that there is no bad weather, only bad clothing. She was right and we all had proper apparel, which made the atmospheric conditions much better. I am pleased I put inside my backpack that extra coat. 

Another test was the simplicity of the exercises in the survival kit. You could be tempted to rush on finding the answers and free your brain to enjoy the views. But there was a catch. When you are thinking about your life, it is not so easy to switch off your mind, especially if you are trying to improve the one you have. Every time I decided to write down my thoughts, even when I did not have the optimal energy to do so, It paid back with extra clarity and direction.

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Capture your thoughts whenever they visit you

Finally, when I finished the walking part of the day, it feels good to eat and rest. After a couple of hours, the body becomes so used to the shape of the bed that it is almost impossible to stand up before dinner time. Once when we stayed near Zambujeira do Mar, the weather cleared totally towards the evening, and I knew that 15 minutes away from the hotel, a potentially magnificent sunset was waiting for me. Nevertheless, I was feeling so comfortable that my will to move almost disappeared.

In good time The Clash played again in my head:

Should I stay or should I go now?

If I go, there will be trouble

And if I stay, it will be double   

And I went! I could not be more happy to have done so. I stand by myself in front fo the omnipotent Atlantic Ocean and probably learned a precious lesson. Every minute in your life you are always making choices, even when you believe you are not. Remember:

Whatever you are not changing, you are choosing.

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Sunset in Zambujeira do Mar

Now read it in repeat and think about the different aspects of your life that need a change. Professional life, Relationships, Time management, Finances, Vacation destination. Everything you do (or don’t) carries a choice inside. Be sure you are the one responsible for it.

If you are curious about how the Midlife Transition program looks like, take a look at a short video from last week below.

Don’t forget to turn up the volume

Are you ready to take the first step?

If you are thinking about continuing walking towards the best version of yourself in 2020, be aware that the WM program dates are already available on the website. If you join until the end of December, you can save some good money, not even to mention that you can make this investment up to four installments. Until then.

   Keep walking with me,

     Joao Perre Viana

Founder of Walking Mentorship

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